Communication

Are you good at listening? Are you quick to give advice? Do you easily pick up on other people's feelings? Do you find it easy to draw parallels and talk about how you experienced things or handled things?

We can strengthen the person we are listening to by remaining with them and not entering into our own experiences. We can be curious and ask questions. What is challenging you the most right now? What is it that it is time to let go? What do you want to invite into your life instead?

If we are quick to give advice, it can instead have the opposite effect as the other person can react with resistance.

Nor can we be a support if we take on the other's feelings. We can be a much better support by staying within ourselves and our own energy.

f you know that the person you are talking to tends to end up in negative talk, make sure to break it up. Negative talk brings more negative thoughts and feelings and affects our energy negatively. Turn it around. What is there to learn from this situation? What do you want your life to look like? What do you dream about? What do you love to do?

Communication is essential in all relationships. Ask the question: do you want me to just listen, do you want advice or do you want to be coached? Then it is clear from the start. But also set boundaries. "I feel like I don't have the energy to be a support right now." "Now you are kneading and getting stuck in the negative. Now we turn it around and see what is positive.”

I think about this a lot and practice staying with the person I'm listening to. Practice and get better!!

// Sara Thelin - Coach